and the darkness
has not overcome it.
For at one time you were darkness,
but now you are light in the Lord.
Walk as children of light.
But if we are living in the light, as God is in the light,
then we have fellowship with each other,
and the blood of Jesus, his Son, cleanses us from all sin.
1 John 1:7
We, as mothers and wives, are created to be the light-bearers of the family.
As the lead female ,I have sway over my family. I can set the emotional atmosphere of my home.
If the emotional atmosphere is super charged with anxiety and volcanic eruptions of emotion, it creates a belief that emotions are where I should look to govern my happiness and my safety. They, in fact, are not! I don’t want my children to learn that emotions govern our lives. This begins with not letting them govern me. Other families tend to keep their emotions in, but they don't deal with them. This can lead to internal angst and bitterness. In our family, our goal is not to be the halfway point or a blend, but to be the opposite of both. We have to be able to feel our emotions without them leading us or making our decisions. God gave us feelings. He intends good from them. I am asking Him to help me feel my emotions in the safety of His presence. I can voice my thoughts to Him in safety and with the protection He brings. My thoughts in His presence don’t bring harm and He alone can help me clearly decipher my emotions. This is what I want to teach my children. I have to be that light-bearer constantly showing them the way. I am the emotional barometer of my home. The way I react to my children and situations out of my control will teach them what they should believe about God. Is He safe, cant they turn to Him, trust Him? Every day is riddled with situations where I can bear the Light; traffic jams, plumbing issues, interactions with adults, money, giving, stress, the list never ends. I constantly think about what I should be telling my children, what I need to realize is that I am communicating mostly without words every day of their lives.I am constantly sending them messages with my actions and reactions. I can shed light on their path by using the Light for myself. When I see clearly where I am going, it helps them see more where they should be headed, and it gives them feelings of safety. This feeling of safety, despite the circumstances, is a priceless gift to your children. It will in fact set them up to emotionally trust God.
As the light bearers for our children, if we are not speaking the truth, we are not bearing light but hastening in the darkness instead. It is as simple as that. We have to be the adults; we can’t let our children dictate the truth to us. This pattern starts at an incredibly young age, so if you are thinking you have time to develop this, you don’t. Your children won’t believe you have the truth if you don’t (we have to know what we believe). I don’t care how old they are or how much time you think you have, learn what you believe. Your children won’t believe you have the truth if you don’t act on your belief, and they will look for it somewhere else. They also won’t believe it’s true if you don’t apply it in your life. (They will hear what you do).
Sometimes being a light bearer means you have to move forward and wait for them to follow the light. Now ladies, I am a mom, I know waiting is not in our DNA. So, what do we do while we wait? Instead of pestering and yelling, “Hey, the light is over here”; we pray. We wait calmly on our God to do His thing.Calmly being the operative word. We need to remain calm in our belief that God can be trusted with our children. He has a plan and a timeline. As much as I have tried to get Him to, He doesn't consult me about the timeline. I am learning that this is the hardest part of parenting. You have to hold tight to that light and pray for God to help them see it. The more you trust it in your life, the more they will look to it in theirs.
Father, let me walk in the light as you are in the light. In you is no darkness.
There are so many shadows here that seem like something that they aren’t.
Help my children see them for what they are: false hopes, lies about who we are and who God is,
dreams of worthless things. Help my family to see our days in your light
which dispels all the shadows. Let us have clear vision that cuts to the truth.
Help me bear the Light and fight the shadows in my home.
Let me see that this is something you accomplish,
I just have to keep holding up the light and you will let it shine where it’s needed.
In Jesus name